Core Values
Coaching Tip #17
Learning is one of my core values. I am always looking to what I can improve, or do differently. I know it is a core value because when I am having a bad day, if I am triggered by something or just a little bored, and if I have enough awareness, I will pause what I am doing and dive into some form of learning.
This might include listening to a podcast, reading an article, reaching out to a friend for advice, or picking up one of the many books I have in my office and flipping through for valuable wisdom. It also might mean improving a skill, such as my computer competencies, or video production abilities. There is so much I do not know. And so many opportunities!
Any of these strategies can shift me away from the mood and emotions that I am experiencing toward a more positive outlook – one of curiosity. It gets me out of my own way.
Having an awareness of what your core values are is useful in many circumstances. This is the definition I use with my clients:
Values are a compass that keeps us on course. When we are in alignment with our values it has a positive impact on resilience, authenticity, integrity, decision-making, focus, relationships, communication and satisfaction.
I keep my core values on a card in my wallet. It is a helpful tool in those bad moments. It allows me to ask the question, “In this situation, are any of my core values being ignored or stomped on?” If I can identify the trigger, then I can be proactive and work to solve the issue.
If you are curious about your core values, Think about the following things:
• What is truly important to you. Is it trust, making a difference, courage, independence, excellence, compassion?Is it relationships, reputation, or financial security? Only you can answer this question.
• Realize that the articulation of your core values may take time. Values are layered. Keep a list of the words you come up with and test them. Ask yourself if there is a better word to describe them.
• Ask someone who knows you well what they think your core values are. Sometimes we need help seeing the individual trees through the forest.
• Bring awareness to when you are triggered by someone who does not honor, or even downplays, the importance of your values. In fact, it does not have to be someone else. It can be you ignoring or downplaying your own values. Get curious about your reaction. It can tell you a lot.
Once you define your core values, try using them in particular situations (like I do with learning). If it creates a positive impact, then you now have a new tool in your toolbox.
Take care, Melinda